Pattern breaker

My client is a pattern breaker. It was not in the cards for him to do well, to take loving care of himself and his family, and yet that is exactly what he has done.

He tells me he has been lucky. But when we take a closer look at his life, it becomes clear that his success is the result of his curiosity, his ability to seize opportunities and his positive relationships with the people he has met along the way.

My client’s father was a severe alcoholic. He was violent and did not take care of his wife or son. My client grew up in a small provincial town, hanging out on the corner with his moped and making trouble with his friends.

A chance meeting changed everything. After a fire in the golf club’s clubhouse, he decided to learn to play golf. He spent a lot of time playing golf, and through the sport he met people who saw his potential and helped him develop his talents – against all odds.

He faced challenges with willpower, experienced success, and whenever something was difficult, he gave his all and achieved his goals.

What we don’t tell others

Recently, after many conversations, he was ready to share something very personal with me – that few in his life know about. It was an important milestone, and we talked about how this could affect his future.

He decided to exercise an extra day a week and spend more time with his wife, whom he loves very much – for example by taking daily walks together.

He tells me that it has taught him to focus his activities and appreciate life, the people he meets and not least his loved ones.

Role model

As a person, he is a role model – but without the desire to stand out. He simply wants to be present for those he meets on his way, and especially for his loved ones.

His story touches me deeply and I am grateful that he shows me the confidence to reach out when he needs a reflection partner.

In accordance with the ICF’s ethical standards, I have shared this post with my client, who has given his approval and contributed suggestions for improvements.